I have decided to totally change the course of this site. It isn’t very much updated anymore as I am not out, but this was such an amazing place to be able to talk and interact with those who read it as I was working up to have the courage to come out. 

I am thinking of starting with a message board, where members can sign up and interact with others who aren’t out yet, as well as those who are. I feel as if many people, myself included have tons of great knowledge to share and why not make this a place to do so? 

Be on the look out for new development in the next few weeks and hopefully a full launch in the coming days and/or weeks. 

That being said, as this is going to be for the community…are there any tools that you might like to see? Ways to interact or other community styled sites you are familiar with and enjoy the style of? Any ideas are welcomed and if you want to help out in anyway it is more then appreciated. 

Stay tuned….

Update: That was faster then I thought…forums are now live http://ClosetedGay.com/forums

The theme I had just wasn’t working. It only showed once post at a time. I have a new temporary one in place, but I am looking for help from anyone who can maybe suggest a better theme, or knows how to design one. Please leave a comment below if you have any suggestions.

Thanks,

CG

I guess I should begin at the beginning as all good stories do. My name, well my name isn’t important…let’s just call me CG. I’m a young 20-something living in San Francisco, California. Moving to San Francisco was one of the best things that I could of done with my life. I feel free to be open about my sexuality and not scared that I will run into someone I know from back home.

As you might of noticed from the title of the site here, I am still in the closet to most of the people in my life. My family, friends, co-workers all are pretty much in the dark about me. I am hoping that this site is a way for me to be able to express myself and say the things that I want to say, but am too afraid to with the people I know. I am leaving the comments wide open right now (unless there is serious abuse) and I openly welcome any comments you have or stories you would like to share.

I am not your typical gay guy. I am pretty straight acting, and don’t have that cookie cutter gay look either. To be perfectly honest, I am bi. I enjoy women and who knows I would love to get married one day, but it just seems so much easier with guys.

(As you may notice I tend to venture off topic quickly…although I have never been diagnosed with ADD)

Like I said, I am not a super skinny, short hair’d typical gay guy. I have struggled with my weight my entire life, but never been obese or really overweight. I could stand to lose a few pounds, as I am sure we all could. I guess my weight has been an issue for me being gay as well….I am totally not attracted to older, fat, or ugly guys. Sort of ironic since I am packing on a few extra pounds. I also think that my weight issue is more in my head then anything else. No one I know calls me fat and tries to say that I’m crazy when I say so. That being said, I think the max “US Government” weight for my height maxes out at 175, and I am around 190-200.  I hope to join a gym as a New Year’s resolution, and stick to it.

Alright enough about that. I hope to be able to tell you about my experiences, get suggestions on what I should do in certain situations, and learn to be more free with my sexuality. I think this post is a bit long, so I will save more for the next time.

Oh btw, I just posted this on Craigslist (lots more on CL, Adam4Adam, and ManHunt in future posts) here in San Francisco:

Not sure exactly how I should word this, but I recently moved into the bay area and am looking for someone to hang out with. I recently started to hang out with a few gay friends before I moved out here, and would really like to make some in the area.

I work A LOT, but would like someone to be able to hang out with, grab a drink, talk about things that I can’t really discuss with others in my life. I am sort of closeted, but am working on that. Would like to find someone who understands where I am at, and can maybe offer advice, or who possibly is going through the same thing.

This isn’t really a “hook-up” type thing, although just to be honest that is all I really have done with guys…never had a boyfriend, but I would like to.

I’m not sure that this is the right place to post this, but I am just not that social when it comes to the club/bar scene, and everyone there seems so stuck up anyway. I want to meet someone and get to know them for who they are, not who they are on Friday and Saturday nights.

I’m on my phone all the time, so someone who likes to text message or email a lot would be cool, since I am always in communication that way.

A little about me quickly, I’m in my mid 20’s (and would really prefer someone around my age aka not over 30). I enjoy movies, going out and buying things, gadgets,  etc. I’m not really into the club scene, but I think that if I had someone to go with I would be a little bit more comfortable. I don’t do any drugs/smoke and am clean/HIV-. I do like to drink socially, but not excessively.

I also was going to join a gym, probably 24Hour Fitness, so if you had a membership that would be cool as well, and give us something to go do together and maintain accountability for the other one going.

That being said, I hope that I can find a few friends to be able to chill with and get to know better. Thanks